but I’m too familiar with dysfunctional family members to have any illusions that way. At least your mom is OK after the accident. And while having her live with you isn’t ideal, you mentioned that you had a plan; I’m sure you can come up with a revision to the plan that will cover the bases. Maybe not to everyone’s best liking, but hey we can only do what we can do. Your mom is safe and secure and maybe not firing on all cylinders but hey, we all have our issues don’t we? Maybe tell your SIL to go buy her own little servant, instead of using Mom. Balance things out as best you can amongst the various needs of the family, and pat yourself on the back that you’re trying to chart a sane course amidst a lot of distractions and temptations, and on behalf of folks who don’t exactly share your philosophy (but dang it would be nice if they did!). And hang in there!