but I kept 3 out of the 4 I had in a cradle in our room for the first 4 or 5 months. It was just so much easier, especially in the middle of the night, to have the baby with us. You’ll want to to make sure the baby can’t see you, so when you move him to his own room, it’ll be a lot easier, but it’s really going to be ok for you to keep your mom under the watchful eye of you and your dh, in a two bedroom place until it’s time to move. It sounds to me that the boundary issues are not with your mom and your husband and you, but with your mom and your db and dsil. The sound toxic, to say the least. You’ll be ok, and so will she. I’m glad she’s not harmed, and it’s wonderful you and your dh are there for her. As a side note, I think I would let your mom know how nice it will be to have her there with you when you have your little guy, and it will. Make her feel this is a blessing for her to be there with you, and that you’ll need her help, it might make things less stressful (guiltless) for her.