I finally remembered what this woman reminded me of

It reminded me of all those people we’ve all spoke with sooner or later that say the TTMO doesn’t work, that it is just a way for DR to line his pockets. Mine was one of dh’s family. He actually called DR a scam artist that was going to take all my money. Right up to the point I told him I’d never spent a penny with DR and I was getting debt free and had the paid off bills to prove it.
He called us foolish for trusting DR’s plan. Of course this was coming from a man that had just spent the afternoon at the bank trying to keep them from foreclosing on his house and wasn’t answering the phone because of all the collection agencies. We had tried discussing with him and his family that evening the TMMO and the second we said “cut up the credit cards” he got real defensive and ugly with us. It’s now two years later, we are seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and his family is barely hanging on to their house and guess what their credit cards got cut up okay, but not by them by the cc companies because they were maxed and behind on the payments.
Anyway, I realized she had much the same mannerisms as this family member not wanting to face the truth that credit cards are NOT the way to go.

Now that I’ve seen pictures I can describe it better

The front bumper is cracked in the middle and coming off, but not hanging. The passenger airbag popped out and cracked the windshield on that side along with the driver side air bag coming out.

I think that’s why they totaled it. If the airbags wouldn’t have deployed they more than likely would have fixed the bumper and windshield for $1500 to $2000.
That’s why my mother could still drive the car. The windshield was still in the frame and a cop didn’t see her.

I think of it this way

I have three poly anna pills working.
Dear mom is okay.
I don’t have to be 8 months pregnant while she moves.
Nobody in their right mind will give her a mortgage while she has a car loan and a student loan. (Too much debt to income ratio.) So that ends the buying a house plan after age 60 with a 30 yr note with no plan to really pay it off. She’s pretty convinced she can’t do it now. That’s good. She had a bad feeling about it but was being pressured by of course the db and dsil and didn’t know what to do. We’ve explained for the hundredth time that we aren’t kicking her out because of the baby. Why would we when we took her in when dsil tried to throw her on the street in 2 days to sell their condo?

So…. for now dear mother is at my house and for the foreseeable future she will be doing her money Dave’s way as much as I can get her to. The scales have at least tipped in my favor.
Hopefully she will get some info about her car today. The tow people had to be yelled at for not picking it up for two days. They said it was because of the snowstorm. I’m not going to fall for that. This happened 36 hours before the storm.